I Made My 18 Year Old Move Out
I made my son move out of the house. He turns 18 soon. He treats our home as if it were his personal hotel. He won't pick up after himself, he leaves the house a pig sty. He has gotten so bad that he won't come home now that he has met these two homosexual females, and our dog needs to be walked while I am at work. I leave for Iraq soon and I can't trust him to leave him in the house. He does not respect boundaries. He has searched my room and I don't know what would be going on in my house if I left for Irag and left him alone. I think making him move out now will give him time to see how things are out on the street. I worry his pride will prevent him from coming to me should he need me. I want to make some sort of stipulation that he should call me or visit me once a week. However, I am not sure he will want to do that. I need to know he is o.k. Any advice on this entire situation.
At age 18, young adults who live at home, are contributing to the household financially or by attending college and working, or by doing volunteer work as an apprentice. If your son is doing any of these, then he might be able to stay in your house with several months of regular family meetings to set-up how you want the household to operate.
If he is not doing any of the above and is not mentally or physically challenged, he should leave the home and find work that supports an apartment, a hostel or a group home.
All parents need to-detach from their adult children by preparing them to be independent. Only you know best how to teach your son the skills he needs to live on his own. Don't wait another day-start training him for independent living.
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