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Communication Cues - You Decide
Job and Family Services - Foster Family Training
The ABC’s of Positive Parenting for Foster Parents
Threatening:
* I saw you.....
* I am very sure you....
You? * I noticed you.....
Non-Threatening:
* What is the situation here?
It? * What happened here?
What? * It looks like something happened....
Promotes Thinking:
* Let’s talk about it,
* Let’s write it down,
* Stop, sit down and think.
* You have a choice....you can do....by yourself or if you need help, ask me....
Does Not Promote Thinking:
* I told you to....
* Listen to me once and for all
* If you ever....
* Never do that again
* Don’t you dare....
* What did you do that for...
Talking Positively:
* No, it’s not okay
* It’s not good, it’s a problem we have to fix
* What can you do to fix it?
* Yes, you can. If you need help, ask....
* I can’t talk to you now, until you calm down, but we must talk
Talking Negatively:
* You make me sick
* You’re a bad boy/girl
* You’re going to get punished
* You’ll never get to go to....
* You get out of my sight, before I....
Promotes Behavior Changes (identifying):
* Offering prompts and reminders
* Identifying short term consequences
* Practicing good behavior with your child - rehearse!
* Modeling what bad behavior looks like
* Taking turns talking and listening
