Communication Techniques for Accelerating Development and Reducing Stress
Threatening:
- I saw you..
- I am very sure you...
- I noticed you.
Non-Threatening:
- What is the situation here?
- What happened here?
- It looks like somthing happened...
Promotes Thinking:
- Let's talk about it
- Let's write it down
- Stop, sit down and think
- You have a choice...you can... by yourself or if you need help, ask me
Does Not Promote Thinking:
- I told you to...
- Listen to me once and for all
- If you ever...
- Never do that again
- Don't you dare...
- What did you do that for?
Talking Positively
- No, it's not okay
- It's not good, it's a problem we have to fix
- What can you do to fix it?
- Yes, you can. If you need help, ask...
- I can't talk to you now, until you calm down, but we must talk
Talking Negatively:
- You make me sick
- You're a bad boy/girl
- You're going to get punished
- You'll never get to go to...
- You get out of my sight, before I...
Promotes Behavior Changes (identifying):
- Offering prompts and reminders
- Identifying short term consequences
- Practicing good behavior with your child - rehearse!
- Modeling what bad behavior looks like
- Taking turns talking and listening
